Thursday, March 14, 2019

"I am Enough"



I chose this particular statement because it is something that I have to remind myself every day. It’s hard to talk about because it is a deeply personal thing to show someone how your brain works. My brain is always comparing myself to others, and highlighting my shortcomings.

Let me tell you about the teacher next door to me. She is the perfect language arts teacher. She is well read, well spoken, and makes relationships with kids like you wouldn’t believe. She is liked by everyone including students, teachers, and especially administration. She always seems to know what to say in a meeting or when I am having a bad day. She never seems to have a bad day or a bad lesson. She is outgoing and makes any task look easy.

While this might sound like a jealous rant, it really is just a collection of thoughts I have about her on a daily basis. I consider her my best friend and sometimes it is hard to be friends with someone who is so perfect. These thoughts come to me as an internal dialogue of my shortcomings. I look at her and wonder why I can’t have the skills she has. Logically, I know that all of these things are not true. Outside perceptions hardly ever match reality and I know better than to make assumptions. But my head tells me that she is perfect and I am not and if I could just be more like her then I would be better.

In order for me to survive all of these negative thoughts that I have on a daily basis about myself I have adopted the phrase “I am enough” as a mantra. I try to remind myself of that you can’t let the negative thoughts take over. I have a lot of students that struggle with body image issues or self-confidence and I share with them that I too struggle with these things. We have to control the dialogue inside of our heads and stop comparing ourselves with others because it is much easier to point out your own flaws than point out the flaws of others.

We are enough.

2 comments:

  1. There's this girl in my M.Ed program who is such a well-spoken writer. She has perfect grammar and I bet she even spells grammar right the first time, unlike I just did. Her laugh is contagious and she has a great sense of humor. Her writing is clear and the points she wants to make are well thought out. I wish I could organize my thoughts that well.

    When I get caught up in comparing myself to others I try to reverse it: what might they be saying in their heads about me? I wonder what your neighbor teacher compares herself with you about? We are all constantly comparing ourselves to others but you are completely right; in a very complex way, we are simply enough.

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  2. Your post was raw Nikki and I LOVED IT! And may I add that YOU ARE NOT ALONE in terms of the comparing. I'd like to share that although comparing can bring discouragement to us if we let it, it can also INSPIRE us to get better! I agree that it's much easier for the negative thoughts to outweigh the positive but those that we compare to can push us to strive for a better version of us!

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